30 days to make your marriage Hot

and why it’s worth falling in love again and again

We sat around the fire after a sweet time of fellowship and prayer. My favorite people and dearest of friends; each of us with our hopes and dreams and fears. We place our hope in Christ, hopes for our children, ourselves and our marriage.

Somehow the conversation turns toward more intimate details of our marriages and we laugh and encourage each other.

How do you keep your marriage steamy and romantic and wonderful? After 15 plus years of marriage, kids, weariness, what makes marriage better?

A friend gives us a challenge. At first we think she’s joking because, well, her challenge was this: Get intimate with your husband for 30 days.

Ya’ll 30 days is a lot of days! She wasn’t kidding! Because, why not?

Why wouldn’t you give the love of your life, the man of your dreams, this gift? What if it made your love life better than ever? What if it solidified something in your marriage that you didn’t even know was lacking? What if you just have fun again and more often? What if you fall in love again and again?

30 days.

30 days to show my husband how much I love him, to show him that I will put aside my tiredness or insecurities or to do list for intimacy with him.

“30 Days to show my husband how much I love him, to show him that I will put aside my tiredness, insecurities or to do list for intimacy with him. ”

He’s all for it! We set a start date and are eagerly anticipating our evening. He gets all the children to bed a little earlier than normal! Maybe this is a really good idea!

The days go by and each day we find a creative way to connect. We stay up later or wake up a little earlier and somewhere in the midst of 30 days we fall in love again. Yes, we’ve always loved each other well, but the connection is different. We’ve made time fore each other, we’ve desired each other, we’ve sacrificed for each other, we’ve enjoyed each other all in a short span of time.

Those 20 something year olds of long ago, the ones who couldn’t keep their hands off each other are gone, we’ve grown up in many ways, but in 30 days we remember the passion. In 30 days we reignited our intimacy.

God crated marriage and intimacy. Solomon writes, “I am my beloved and he is mine, his banner over me is love” Song of Solomon 6:3. The banner was flown in battle and it would declare who or what you were fighting for. It declared who and what you were willing to give your life for. It was a declaration of war.

“Will we fly the banner in battle and declare that we are fighting for our husbands and we are willing to give up our lives for our marriages?”

Ladies, your marriages are under siege. The enemy will do everything he can to destroy your marriage. So we have to decide, will we go to battle for our marriages? Our families? Our beloved husbands? Will we fly the banner in battle and declare that we are fighting for our husbands and we are willing to give up our lives for our marriages?

The banner over the battle for our marriage is love. LOVE. There is no grater love, than to lay down your life for you friend, your husband, your beloved.

I challenge you, give your marriage 30 days of intimacy and go to battle for your marriage. Fly the banner high and declare you love is worth everything. 30 days will ignite a fire in your intimacy and marriage. Here is to falling in love again and again. Take the challenge, fly the banner high, you won’t regret it.